am i doing it right?? -continued

Do u change the parameters often. If yes stop taking decision by yourself, let the one who loves u lot take the decision, say ur mother. If u are confident in ur decision and u do'nt change the parameters often, and u are sure u get the result in time. You can stand till u get it.

for any problem which needs solution with in certain period, waiting does'nt make any sense, u must choose the best option u have.

eg) marriage : u cant wait till your age is 60 for a kind of man/woman u like in looks and character.

for the problems that doesn't have any time frame, u can wait for ever.

eg) buying a Benz : waiting for 5 years, u may get a better one than what u thought of.

when u ask this to a farmer, in his term he will give an answer like this.
there is time frame for selling a xyz fruit or vegetable, till a certain time the value of the xyz raises but after that, even if the market prices are high the product xyz's price depreciates, if u lose the time frame you'll end up with nothing

"being too picky" while u are sure what u get is worth the wait. there's nothing to worry, about (others). when u win and u are on the stage they will be saying "I already know that ur selection will be excellent" or "I know that u are the one blessed with intelligence to get the best and make me proud" or "I am the one who helped him/her to go for the best."

so ignore them but analyse the points they give in justifying their advice. check it with the parameters you've set, if there is nothing to do with the points, forget them.

am i doing it right??

am i doing it right??

this is the question we ask to ourselves when we are in a position to take a decision that is exactly opposite to the commonly taken decision towards a problem.

if u ask me, my answer is

it depends...

example if ur father compels u to study medicine but u do like computers, study medicine. u have an option to study computers as an additional course. its like a "physical change". in this situation u make ur father happy as well as u'll be happy as both of u are winners. it will be worth the time.


for example if it's marriage think before u accept. (u doesn't mean you it just means some xyz)

because it's a chemical change. there is no way to reverse it. even if undone there will be stains or left overs. which will remind it to u all over ur life.

do write all the + and - in the decision. both in ur fathers point of view and yours and the views of whom u think will be worth.

analyse it put ur ego in the safe and lock it, write down the out come u think u enjoy and ur father enjoys. dont think of short term enjoyments. think longer term.

if its only beauty it doesn't worth the wait. at first it may be pleasure but later it may become pain. (see most of the film stars lives).

if its the character, and u are sure u get what u think of, it's worth the wait.

if its business, look before u leap.

what ever u think may be right but the real key is when?

the wrong decisions may put u off the track and u'll have to lose ur hard work u did for years, before u get on track back again.

go by ur intentions
and follow ur intuitions.
god has programmed our subconscious mind so that it knows more about us than what we think we do.

calculate the risks and out come.

it may take time but it is worth the wait if the outcome is as perfect as u planned.

dont ignore any advice. in the same time dont follow all the advice u get. if the advice is good, change the parameters u've set before u come to a conclusion, since u may get the key from someone's advice who u really dislike.

believe "what ever happens is for our good, whether we win or lose".

the best decision is the one which does make u and others happy in longer run even if u feel the pain now

say the decided ahimsa path for the freedom struggle.

i may explain it with examples but u may get bored and its hard for me to exactly present it in words what i have it in my mind.