am i doing it right??

am i doing it right??

this is the question we ask to ourselves when we are in a position to take a decision that is exactly opposite to the commonly taken decision towards a problem.

if u ask me, my answer is

it depends...

example if ur father compels u to study medicine but u do like computers, study medicine. u have an option to study computers as an additional course. its like a "physical change". in this situation u make ur father happy as well as u'll be happy as both of u are winners. it will be worth the time.


for example if it's marriage think before u accept. (u doesn't mean you it just means some xyz)

because it's a chemical change. there is no way to reverse it. even if undone there will be stains or left overs. which will remind it to u all over ur life.

do write all the + and - in the decision. both in ur fathers point of view and yours and the views of whom u think will be worth.

analyse it put ur ego in the safe and lock it, write down the out come u think u enjoy and ur father enjoys. dont think of short term enjoyments. think longer term.

if its only beauty it doesn't worth the wait. at first it may be pleasure but later it may become pain. (see most of the film stars lives).

if its the character, and u are sure u get what u think of, it's worth the wait.

if its business, look before u leap.

what ever u think may be right but the real key is when?

the wrong decisions may put u off the track and u'll have to lose ur hard work u did for years, before u get on track back again.

go by ur intentions
and follow ur intuitions.
god has programmed our subconscious mind so that it knows more about us than what we think we do.

calculate the risks and out come.

it may take time but it is worth the wait if the outcome is as perfect as u planned.

dont ignore any advice. in the same time dont follow all the advice u get. if the advice is good, change the parameters u've set before u come to a conclusion, since u may get the key from someone's advice who u really dislike.

believe "what ever happens is for our good, whether we win or lose".

the best decision is the one which does make u and others happy in longer run even if u feel the pain now

say the decided ahimsa path for the freedom struggle.

i may explain it with examples but u may get bored and its hard for me to exactly present it in words what i have it in my mind.